Got Chemistry?

Dear "It" Girl,

For an experiment that doesn’t involve a Bunsen burner, initiate a conversation with one of your coupled female friends about chemistry. Ask her about the energy that makes her current relationship sizzle. When you inquire about what it is that sparks such a powerful attraction, does she respond with the universal-It’s-just-something-about-him-default variety? Never mind the seemingly impossible definition, the real question remains: How the heck can we ladies find it?

Thanks to popular women’s magazines, we’ve all been twirling our hair and batting our eyelashes since we began wearing training bras, but how many of us have grabbed hold of true chemistry? If it’s been a while since you’ve thought things just felt right with a man, consider the following chemistry boosting tips:

In a world where you can be anyone, be yourself! The notion of being our true selves increases our chances of finding love exponentially. Many men will agree that there is nothing more sexy than a woman who has found what she loves and loves doing it. Self-help gurus everywhere continue to spell out the benefits of living a passionate, authentic life, but there are still so many women out there who haven’t found out who they are and what turns them on. (They do, however, know what turns him on!) Don’t pretend to be someone you are not in hope of snagging the best of the man pool. Great men like you to have your own opinions, interests, and lives outside of them. They’ll soon catch on that your real motivation for golf had nothing to do with, well, golf. When the show is over, the chemistry, too, will proceed to the nearest exit.

Say what you really mean! Didn’t your mother tell you that honesty was the best policy? When it comes to relationships, we must speak from our hearts and be true to our words. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and it is built with genuine communication. If your man hurts you, let him know how you feel. If he can listen and share his own truth, you can connect in a way that will strengthen your bond.

And when you’ve found those fireworks……………. Don't give it all up at once. I'm not going to either. To read the last bit of this article, check it out on a site that I write for every Monday. View it here:

http://beautiesonthego.ning.com/forum/topics/got-chemistry

Love, Rachel Russo, MS, MFT