Warning: Do NOT date this guy!

Dear "It" Girl,

Some say love is blind, and others say it is the willingness to see past the beloved’s flaws. If you’ve just started a new relationship and are in the infatuation stage, it is likely that you don’t even want flaws to enter your line of vision. If you reflect back on your past relationships, however, you may realize that the red flags were there all along. It’s difficult to want to recognize the signs that someone you just started dating is actually not a suitable partner for you. Work past that. If you wait until you are in love, you may find yourself in a long term relationship with someone you don’t even like! The types of men of men who are bound to get under your skin:

1. Mr. Unsatisfied: Is your new man never happy with where he is at? Look for signs of impatience and the inability to enjoy the moment. Is he looking over your shoulder for the hottest girl in the club? It won’t be long be for he becomes unsatisfied with you. Don’t waste your time trying to please someone who can never be pleased.

2. Mr. I Won’t Commit: Yes, these George Clooney types are appealing and fun to date at first. Be careful though, because the more you are with him, the more you will want what he can’t give you. If he says he doesn’t want an exclusive relationship, don’t think you can change him. (You’ll have just as much of a chance as you would on a quest to turn a gay man straight.) If you do choose to stick this out, be prepared for guaranteed frustration when asking him to do anything from call you at a certain time to make dinner plans four hours in advance.

3. Mr. I Have No Idea What I Want To Do With My Life: Many men need to figure out their life's purpose or at least find a job that they don't hate before they are ready to put the effort into a serious relationship with you. These types can be a bit scattered, as they are trying so desperately to find out who they are. They are good guys in disguise, but the potential for disliking them is very real, unless you have a thing for starving artists.

5. Mr. Addict: It doesn’t matter whether he fancies booze or another drug of choice; if he has a serious addiction, you will always feel like you are competing for his time and his hear. Mr. Addict is emotionally unavailable and needs to figure out why he’s trying to escape his pain. He doesn’t even love himself. What makes you think he’ll love you?

Love, Rachel Russo, MS, MFT