Your Man: A Priority or Option?

Dear “It” Girl,

As you probably know by now, I am a big fan of quotations. Lately, I have been meeting with a lot of women who are caught up in relationships with guys they really shouldn’t be. These men are often the “player” types who are not able to give them the sort of attention that they desire.
For such women, a quote from Sheryl Argov’s bestselling book Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship comes to mind.

“Do not make someone your priority while allowing yourself to remain his option”.
Indeed, there is absolutely nothing wrong with keeping your options open, so you should seek to understand and not hate on the man who does. For many men and women alike, it is a beautiful and necessary thing that can provide worthwhile learning experiences one hundred times over.

However, men might be from Mars and women from Venus but when it comes to clarifying the nature of our relationships, we should all be on the same page.
If you are an option; he needs to be an option. That is all there is to it.

Love, Rachel Russo, MS, MFT