Should you “dump the chump”? Two questions to consider when you wonder if you should call it quits!

Dear "It" Girl,

Have you ever been in a relationship in which you really liked the guy but could not fight the nagging feeling that the relationship really wasn't right for you? Whether you are currently in a relationship that is clearly dead end or worried that you are going somewhere with Mr. Wrong, you have to decide how much time you want to spend with a guy you are doubting.

Although a break-up seems like a complicated decision-as lots of feelings are involved- if you have your own best interest at heart, the answer bolis down to your response to two simple questions.

1. Are you focusing your energy on a man who does not have an equal focus of energy on you?
   
2. Do you love him more than you love you?
   

If you can answer "yes" to either of these questions, it is time to change your feelings, thoughts, and behavior. You need to start putting yourself first and becoming passionate about your own life if you want a man to be passionate about you.

Love, Rachel Russo, MS. MFT