Ready For Something Real? Commit To Finding Love-With Him Or Without Him

Dear "It" Girl,

There is a pre-requisite for finding true love, and that is defined as the realization that you are ready to give and receive love freely. A lot of times, women are great on the giving part but come up short on the receiving end. This is often because they choose partners who are emotionally unavailable, incapable of loving, or unwilling to commit to a serious relationship.

An "It" girl does not commit to a man. She commits to finding love in the form of a great relationship with someone who cares about her just as much as she cares about him. She may be rooting for the man she is committed to, but mostly she roots for her own potential of finding love-with him or without him. She knows it's not about getting the perfect guy, but getting the kind of relationship she desires. An "It" Girl realizes that love does not always fit neatly in a Tiffany's box and is open to being patient with a good man who needs a bit of a nudge but still deserves a chance. When his time is up, an "It" girl is strong enough to get rid of the man who doesn't love her and look forward to loving the one who does. She knows in her heart that she deserves and can find true love.

If you don't quite fit the description of the "It" girl, it's okay. As a wise man once said " If all you can do is crawl, crawl." Just put your intention for true love out into the Universe and act in ways that will bring it to you. Perhaps you'll find it with the one you are with or with someone new who is eagerly waiting to meet someone just like you!

Love, Rachel Russo, MS, MFT