Mr. -“Marcia, Marcia, Marcia”-On-Steroids and other men to avoid while (speed) dating!

Dear "It" Girl,

So as you may know from a previous blog entry, I attended the Master Matchmakers/ Purple Lab Speed dating event this past Friday in Hoboken, NJ. In addition to enjoying the snacks, drinks, samples (most especially my new Purple Lab lip gloss), and conversations with men and women I recruited for our service, I made some observations at this world's-largest-speed-dating event that I'd like to share.

The consensus was that speed dating is a fun and unique way to meet dates. However, some people thought three minutes was not enough to assess romantic interest in potential date, while others thought it was too much! As I made my way around all the large tables in the banquet room at the W Hotel, I concluded it was just enough-to know who NOT to date!

Ladies, I quickly realized that there are certain undesirable men whose undesirable behaviors are quite pronounced in this short time span. Here's who to avoid:

1. Mr. On To The Next: This man is essentially the same as the one in the club who is dancing with you and eying up the girl in back of you over your shoulder-only ten times worse. A man who can't give you his full attention for the first three minutes you meet him is pretty much the next Tiger Woods.
   
2. Mr. Stuck On The Last: Perhaps even more pathetic than the former, this man spends his speed date talking about the girl he met just before you. If this is all he can talk about, he is likely to be boring, nervous, dumb, or perpetually stuck in the past. Unless you'd like to endure a two hour dinner date in which the conversation revolves entirely around his relationship with his ex, ruuuuun before the buzzer even sounds.
   
3. Mr. It's The Me Show: We might as well call him Mr.- "Marcia, Marcia, Marcia"- On- Steroids. Dude, shut up already! Can you not see the girl's eyes glazing over? (The girl next to her noticed it and is already avoiding you like the plague!) A relationship with this man will be draining and you will never feel truly heard or cared for.
   

   
    

To end on a positive note, there were a lot of great men in attendance. The rotten apples are the ones I chose to speak of because, believe it or not, there are many smart women who overlook these red flags because they are seduced by charming personalities and big blue eyes. These women need to get a grip and realize the potential power we females hold. Consider this:

If women stop sleeping with and dating men with undesirable qualities, perhaps men with undesirable qualities will become extinct. It could happen!!

Love, Rachel Russo, MS. MFT