What would you (and wouldn’t you!) do for love?

Dear "It" Girl,

"Great love and great achievements require great risks."

When it comes to loving someone, there is a lot to be risked. Exposing your true self and fearing the result, experiencing rejection, and becoming vulnerable to getting hurt emotionally are some of the major risks. There is also the possibility of letting your emotional brain overtake your rational one-resulting in a string of poor life choices. Sometimes, for women, this means staying with someone and doing things for him that negatively impact their health, career, lifestyle, and emotional well-being.

This seems like a huge gamble. One thing about men that I wholeheartedly believer is that they are most likely to love women who love themselves. Yet, I am a firm believer that risking nothing is the biggest risk of all. Ladies, you are going to have to take some risk if you want a mutual display of those warm and fuzzy feelings.

Today, I invite you to do some soul searching. It is important to get an understanding of just how important great love is to you. What are you willing and unwilling to do to be able to give and receive love? When it comes to love, there is no black and white. You must figure out your own shades of grey.

Love, Rachel Russo, MS, MFT